tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6250832418242574166.post250662873200421156..comments2024-03-18T03:20:17.401-04:00Comments on Postilius: Can I be the parent I want to be?Garryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09164507416927791954noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6250832418242574166.post-60593249469100731942014-02-12T13:52:45.075-05:002014-02-12T13:52:45.075-05:00Preschoolers can be so challenging! When I feel ov...Preschoolers can be so challenging! When I feel overwhelmed, here are a couple of things that help me: 1) I read the "Your ___ Year Old" series by Louise Bates Ames. Just knowing that my child's behavior is age appropriate helps me be more patient and gentle. 2) I take more time for myself. Sometimes when I'm stressed, it means that I'm not practicing self-care - in my case, that means I need a little time to relax sans kids. I wrote about it more here: http://codenamemama.com/2013/12/05/getting-back-into-my-positive-parenting-groove/ At any rate, good for you for recognizing your anger and for working on it. Dionna @ Code Name: Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12463687059904219224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6250832418242574166.post-44272075619871121012014-02-12T02:22:11.492-05:002014-02-12T02:22:11.492-05:00Beautifully said! I feel guilty as well when I los...Beautifully said! I feel guilty as well when I lose my patience, and try as I might, it does happen. I just make sure that I tell my son I love him afterwards! I think it's impossible to be a 'perfect parent' and as long as we are aware of our shortcomings, we are doing fine.Tarana Khanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01254231933129121893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6250832418242574166.post-51437091823621343422014-02-11T23:35:02.743-05:002014-02-11T23:35:02.743-05:00I can SO relate to the attitude toward the 4yo. My...I can SO relate to the attitude toward the 4yo. My daughter, at 4 years old, drives my husband and I insane! Thankfully, we can (at least sometimes) keep each other in check. Screaming seems so counterproductive, but its so hard to stop... even when I can see the better action in my mind. Momma Jorjehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17736034293320117257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6250832418242574166.post-40362622035620413202014-02-11T22:52:19.902-05:002014-02-11T22:52:19.902-05:00Can I third that? I have had many days (weeks, mon...Can I third that? I have had many days (weeks, months) like that over the years and, of course, we always need to try harder to be the parents our children deserve, but we also need to be kind and forgiving towards ourselves, especially when life is making extra demands of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6250832418242574166.post-59423614733004130892014-02-11T09:49:45.626-05:002014-02-11T09:49:45.626-05:00Seconding Lauren, pregnancy is an emotional time, ...Seconding Lauren, pregnancy is an emotional time, so be gentle with yourself. Knowing that you want to make certain changes is a great first step. This age isn't easy, but it sounds like your son is happy and thriving. Meegshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09218498742250493159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6250832418242574166.post-44816678373093760502014-02-11T03:46:03.745-05:002014-02-11T03:46:03.745-05:00I have those same experiences of wondering what my...I have those same experiences of wondering what my son will remember of his childhood, and hoping it's not as bad as I'm fearing in that moment. The fact that you're aware of the changes you want to make is a huge step in the right direction already. I'd also say, as someone who remembers the daily emotionalism I had during my last pregnancy, to be gentle with yourself as you deal with the upcoming transition to two.Lauren Waynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500733577920040395noreply@blogger.com